21.

21 is not a big number.

it's not like say 50. 

it's a number that still has some ways to go.

still has a lot of growing to do.

but now that i am 21,

some things have become clear.

1. Mistakes are allowed.
2. Everything is temporary, no matter how permanent it seems at the time.
3. Work on your patience.
4. Forgive.... and forget. Both are an important part of healing for you. Don't hold on to things. (this lesson is hard I know I struggle too but keep going).
5. Failure is part of success.
6. You are magical. God made you so. Don't ever let any other human being tell you differently.
7. Don't be afraid to speak up. Say what matters to you.
8. God gives us second chances. He also gives third chances. And fourths and fifths... lol, you get the point. 
9. Even though your parents have made you feel that way growing up, the earth actually doesn't revolve around you.
10. Remember that people are different. Be sensitive to that at all times.
11. Show people you care. Don't just say it, show it.
12. Tell the truth, tell the truth, tell the truth.
13. Surround yourself with people who are going somewhere. Dead weight isn't good for you.
14. Strive to be a person of integrity. 
15. Be thankful for what you already have. Focus on the things you don't have and you'll never be happy.
16. Don't look for love. Love will find you. Take your time. Slow down. 
17. My dad has stressed this lesson to me for the past year. I think i get it now: do the things you have to do, so that you can do the things you want to do later on. 
18. Listen more not with intention of answering, but with intention of understanding.
19. Think less about "i" and more about others. Put yourself in the shoes of others. Be open without compromising on the essence of who you are.
20. Meditate more often. Clearing your mind helps you to focus more. 
21. Love. Even if you aren't exactly sure how to give it, make the effort. People need love.
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    

Photography by Sian Sue.

Love, Kamilah.